I am so proud to have a mother who knows I’m gay and still loves and supports me as much as she did before she knew. Happy Mother’s Day!
And to those whose parents are not accepting of their sexuality, or those who have not yet come out to their parents, I hope this picture inspires you to never give up hope. As Portia writes in Unbearable Lightness, she had to come out to her mother several times before her mother accepted it. Though she was uncomfortable with Portia’s sexuality at first, she now fully supports her daughter. Ellen’s mother, Betty DeGeneres, has become an outspoken advocate for equality, and her books Love, Ellen and Just a Mom, have helped countless LGBT people (myself included) and their families by normalizing being gay. Sometimes all your parents will need is time (and maybe copies of Betty’s books!).
“We mistake sex for romance. Guys are taught that pushing a girl up against a wall is romance. Sex is easy; you can do it with anyone, yourself, with batteries. Romance is when someone you like walks into a room and they take your breath away. Romance is when two people are dancing and they fit together perfectly. Romance is when two people are walking next to each other and all of a sudden they find themselves holding hands, and they don’t know how that happened.”—John C. Moffi